The date has been set!
Your daughter's wedding is announced. She has butterflies in her stomach and a thousand and one things to think of. Her "butterflies" become yours and your thoughts are racing just like hers. You, as her mum, will help her to plan her dream wedding, just like your mother helped plan yours. In the back of your own mind, you're probably thinking "What will I wear? Will I look just as beautiful as my daughter on her special day? So many people are going to be looking at me as well...."
Worry no more. Here are the 'rules' but like all rules, they're made to be broken or should I say improvised and revised to suit you. In reality, you should do whatever makes you and/or your daughter happy!
1. Discuss things with your daughter. She will come up with a colour scheme for her wedding day.
2. You should ask her whether she wants the colour of your dress to complement her wedding colour/colours or almost match it. Some examples of complementary colours to a red colour theme are burgundy, wine, claret red, dark pink, and purple. It would certainly be difficult to have an exact match of the colours, as your dress will from a different designer, with a different style and fabric. So, don't stress over this.
3. You, as the mother of the bride, will decide on a colour or colours, after talking about it with your daughter. Suggest to her to be flexible on the choice of colours, perhaps two or three choices would be great. Mother of the bride dresses are not made like bridesmaid dresses, the latter being pre-ordered and tailored months ahead of time for the occasion. Shopping for a mother of the bride dress can be a nightmare, especially for the plus size woman or if you live in a rural area.
4. Do not forget to involve the mother of the groom. When you have an idea of what colour you will be wearing, let her know. She will probably appreciate that as she will be in a panic too, and going through the same process of looking for that perfect "mother's" dress.
5. Start looking straight away. Finding YOUR dress is important too. You will be shopping for a specific style that you like and will look great in, a specific colour, and then a specific size. Then, you will need to allow sufficient time if you're going to need professional tailoring of the dress to get it to fit just right! Don't forget the accessories like shoes and jewellery.
6. Take care of yourself in these nerve-wracking times of preparation. Remember, it may be your daughter's big day but you need to look good too.
7. When you've found your Mother of the Bride outfit, sit back and relax with a few weeks to spare.